I was talking with some moms the other day and the subject of what our kids call other adults came up. One friend said she cannot stand kids calling her Mrs. So-and-So and prefers they use her first name.
Another said she requires her kids to use Mr. or Mrs.
A friend of mine from Georgia wasn’t there when we were talking, but we all talked about how her kids call us ma’am and it is pretty awesome. Gotta love those southern manners!
I don’t really have a strong opinion in this matter. I’ve been called Angela, Miss Angela, Mrs. Mills, Hey You, Coco’s Mom, and Hot Mama. Ok, I made that last one up.
In fact, we don’t have any set rules in our house. I usually refer to another mom according to what her kids call me. For instance, we have friends who always call me Mrs. Mills, so when referring to the mom around my kids, I call her Mrs. Smith. My kids call her that because that is what I call her when I’m speaking of her around them.
Then, I have friends whose kids call me Angela, and so my kids call that mom by her first name.
I’ll admit it, I’m a follower.
I do know that whatever you start out calling someone, it tends to stick. I used to teach in a mentoring program and a little girl there called me Miss Angela. She ended up being part of a group of girls that grew up for a few years with my daughter. Every other girl in that group called me Angela, but this girl was so used to me being Miss Angela that it stuck. It was cute, but a little strange because her whole family called me that and we ended up hanging out socially quite a bit.
I honestly don’t care what other people’s kids call me, but that is probably because my flower-child, hippie mom never cared, either.
But I am curious, do you have a hard, fast rule in your family? How do you handle this with your kids and what do you prefer other children call you?
If you have strong reasons, share those, too. Just don’t judge me. I’m the child of a hippie, after all.
Disclosure: Angela’s Mom was not a hippie in the drug-taking, free-love, hairy-armpits sense of the word. She did however, wear her straight hair parted down the middle, own love beads, and has a very carefree spirit, thus causing her children to refer to her as a hippie for the rest of her life. Peace Out.